Tag: men

It has been said that more than 80% of men dabble in some form of pornography. Every one of us has been tempted by the world around us and most of us have fallen at one time or another. I know that I have had to repent to my wife for the things that I entertained and embraced with my eyes on more than one occasion as I was growing in the Lord.

Looking lustfully at other women is more than doing something wrong. It’s adultery against your wife and your marriage. It’s not just a private sin that harms no one. It’s loving something more than you love God and your wife. It’s a sin that is painful, harmful, and destructive to any kind of loving intimacy.

Maybe it’s time to examine your life. Take note of what you do with your eyes. If you need to repent, do so. Ask the Lord to heal you and your desires, bringing them into line with His will. Embrace the beauty in the bride He has given you, even if you haven’t done so in a long time.  Find Christ’s idea of beauty in her. Ask Him to let you see your wife as He sees her. It’s never too late to change!

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Jim Corbett

If your marriage is out of order and your children have little use for you or Jesus, you have an obligation to do something about it. Counseling won’t suffice. Plans and schemes will produce little result. Anger, frustration, and legal action will adversely affect any hope of pleasing God. You are in a spiritual battle and need to engage in the war to reclaim what’s been stolen from you.

God has given you all the tools you need to help undo anything you, your wife, or your children have done to destroy what God desires to use for His glory. He’s provided guidelines for you to follow to enter into the realm that He has already won. Reclaiming what’s been taken from you is a victory awaiting you if you engage in the problem His way.

Once you admit that you’ve lost a spiritual battle that’s been allowed to rage because you’ve been neglect in working with your marriage and children God’s way, you can begin on the road to victory. Repent of your ways. Turn everything over to God and His Holy Spirit. Readjust your priorities, making the war very important and personal as He does. Examine His Word and become familiar with His weapons. Use them from your knees until things are back in order. It will be worth the effort in ways too numerous to count.

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Jim Corbett

God’s kingdom advances in part by how your family grows spiritually. You and your family have an important part in the way the world comprehends the Gospel. They see the work of Jesus by the way you present Him to them.

Think of the impact you can have in the world around you. Think of the impact a spiritually mature wife and spiritually alive children can have on those they come in contact with. In no other way can their influence be more important.

Look around. Look at all the out-of-order marriages. Think of all the children who have only the world and its ways to guide them. You and your family can help make a difference in their lives as you present Jesus. As you point to Him in spoken and unspoken ways, those around you can find what they need to live a vibrant life in Christ and then point others in His direction. What a wonderful ripple effect! What an incredible opportunity!

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Jim Corbett

From The Father Factor by Jim and Merry Corbett

Did you know that in God’s eyes there is no such thing as a generation gap? That whole concept is nothing more than spiritually ignorant, psycho-babble hogwash. Spiritually alive parents who have chosen to invest in their children, considering them more important than themselves and spiritually alive children, who have chosen to invest in the family by the power of the Holy Spirit, have no time to buy into that ridiculousness. The generation gap concept was created by spiritually impotent people, who attempted to incorporate their impotence into guiding and directing their offspring. It is nothing more than a way to excuse their inability to lead their children as they continue to walk in their own ways and thinking. What they really need to do is submit to God through Jesus Christ so that the life of Christ can flow in them through the power of the Holy Spirit. It is God’s wisdom, strength, love, etc. that we need – not ours. Ours will not truly get the job done. Of course, each generation has its own tastes and preferences; but communication, understanding, mutual love and respect, discernment, and prayer overcome any differences and allow generations to flow together with peace and harmony.

Raising godly children requires a lifetime of investing in them, most of the time in ways that violate our personal comfort zones. It is going to take a lot of surrender of our own ways to the Lord, a lot of prayer, a lot of selfless choices, placing their well-being above our comfort; and a lot of heart work. Yes, heart work. However, the eventual satisfaction and rewards of seeing a child being formed by God and the character of Jesus going forth through our children more than compensates for whatever price we may have to pay.

Godly children, who eventually become godly adults, are the goal and heart desire of Father God for both marriage and family. His standards are higher than the world’s standards and most of the standards in the typical church of today. He is after the heart of our children, not their compliance. His methods raise the bar in comparison with “normal” child rearing.

[While education is vitally important and must be part of any child’s growth process, which child lives a more significant life – one who has all the degrees in the world, a successful business, and a mediocre life in Christ; or one who has the priorities of God as his priority, dedicating himself to bringing others to significance while having  few of the successes of the world?]

Investing in our children God’s way creates generations of strong, healthy children, who are full of integrity and inner wealth and capable of not only overcoming any of the challenges that come their way, but actually prospering because of them. Raising children God’s way brings proper credit to the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus Christ and a testimony of His eternal work.

Knowing this, each of us has a choice to make at some point in our lives. This moment may be that time for you. You can approach child rearing with an attitude that your children are the ones who need to conform to His ways on their own, or you can settle it in your heart, once and for all time, that who you are and who you become in Christ is a major factor in determining who they will become.

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Jim Corbett

Being the steward of a Christ-like family is an impossible task. Husbands and fathers, who think they can oversee that kind of family in their own strength, are fooling themselves. Without God’s help and the prayers of others, a mediocre marriage and children who don’t really serve the Lord will more than likely be the result. How can we be content to present that to God one day?

If you care little whether or not your marriage is an example of the relationship between Christ and His church or whether or not your children live significant lives before the Lord, then you can remain a blissful blind guide. You’ll be teaching your family - and many future generations if they follow your lead – to settle for far less than God intends. Why would we do that to those we love?

If, however, you want a marriage and family that pleases God and represents Him properly, then begin by asking Him for help at every opportunity. Make a life of prayer your home base so you’ll have the wisdom, guidance, and power to war against the plots of the enemy. Call upon your family to pray for you, too. Share with your wife and children the responsibilities of your offices of husband and father, and that you understand how much you need the power of the Holy Spirit to fulfill them for your family’s good. Make them an integral part of family prayer. Without violating any trusts within your family, call upon one or two trustworthy friends to hold you accountable. Get to work. There is much that needs to be done!

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Jim Corbett